We are a community based network system of BDSM. Not a private group but open to all those who are curious about or learning the BDSM lifestyle from those on the site who are experienced. This website is run by people in the lifestyle from a Board of Directors, Administration all the way to hosting of this site. This community is non-profit and all donations go back into the site in upgrades, extras, hosting fees, domain fees and programming better function capabilities.

Since the beginning we weed out those, fakes, spammers, hackers, inactive profiles and anything else that comes on this site under false or inactive pretences. This keeps our numbers low, weeds out potential problems on the site and prevents others from being used. The important thing to remember is that we are all here with a common interest and purpose and the administrators of this site try everything possible to keep the real ones here and other ones out.

I have been updating the site and taking into consideration the needs of this community and what is possible to do at this point. Many changes are taking place and additional will be added as donation funds allow.

DID YOU KNOW? When using any type of email address your full name can be used in the header of the email when sending out messages to others. You can change this by going to your email settings and entering in your initials or another name to keep your privacy. In YAHOO emial you sign into your account and go to "OPTIONS" - in AOL you sign in and go to settings. In OUTLOOK you change these in your settings as well. You do NOT have to list your real name. It is good to keep business and online social accounts seperated by using different email addresses.

 New Changes

Terms and Conditions on this site are being updated and revised according to security measures accoutable on this site. Please review these from time to time.

The top main menu has changed order and to help you identify where those changes are made, a small star is now on “My Account” link to manage your account, profile and entries on the web site.

New colors have been changed to brighten up the site. You can however always change your profile to the way you would like it to look by adding your own colors, backgrounds etc.

Live Chat has been changed to a white background now with black default letters so it is easier to read. A link at the top of chat allows you now to paste any mis-behavior chat that goes on in the chat room. This opens to a new page where a form is and this gets sent straight to the Admin on the site. To copy and paste any chat that you think needs to be reported, you simply highlight the chat conversation (more is better) and right click, copy (or hold down your ctrl button and press the letter C) then go to the form, right click in the message section and right click, paste (or hold down your ctrl key and press the letter V ).

NEW Countries - Friends from other countries are joining 411BDSM and we want to welcome them! There have been group categories set up for them to create their own groups there that will help them network with others in their own time zones. All the Terms and Conditions of the site still apply.